“Take away the stone,” he said. “But, Lord,” said Martha, the sister of the dead man, “by this time there is a bad odor, for he has been there four days.” John 11:39, NIV
If a sense of hopelessness is making you discouraged, then here is a post that will make your day! If you have given up on a dream, then this post will lift your heart and put a smile on your face. Now, I am dealing with personal material that is hard to share, but I do so in the hope that you will gain from my mistakes. It is common for those of us who have been bruised by abuse to struggle; I hope my struggles encourage you. I will make this a short series to avoid a very long post.
Do you have dreams that have been buried? If so, let me share my biggest one with you. I wanted to be a pastor with every beat of my heart. It was 1968 and the Vietnam draft and the war itself were splitting our nation. I had just graduated from high school and the draft made it difficult for young men because if you dropped out of college for any reason, you were likely to be drafted and sent off to war.
To further set the scene, I had spent years in a home that was pockmarked with abuse, deception, and threats of death. My home claimed to be a Christian one, but my mom’s mental illness ruled and it was a terrible place to live. Just a few months prior to graduation, my mom held a butcher knife to my throat. It was not a safe place to live or thrive.
But ahead of me was the almost impossible task of learning Greek, Hebrew, and Latin along with all my regular classes. These three languages were essential in order for me to become a Lutheran pastor and that was my dream, so I was determined to learn them.
On top of that challenge was yet another. Emotionally, I was at least four to six years younger than my chronological age because I had lived in near total isolation and terror for so many years. Now if you were to have asked me back then I would never have told you that I was abused. I would've told you that my parents were extremely strict. But the truth was far more brutal than that.
If I had just started out to be a Lutheran minister, without all the abuse and terror through which I lived, I would have been ordained as a pastor. What occurred though was far different than that. At first, I couldn't cut the language issues very well and I had no idea of what to do with my newfound freedom. Since I had never had freedom even for a single day, I was bewildered and totally unable to handle it.
I was a very poor student in my first semester, but I tried hard in the second semester and brought my grades back in spectacular fashion. I studied as hard as I could and was beginning to feel a little bit more secure in my personal relationships, but felt that I was so different from everyone there. My experience level was like that of an eighth-grader not a college freshman. I embarrassed myself in so very many ways.
Then I made a mistake which changed my life forever. I had been studying for three or four days. The night that I pulled my very first all-nighter, one of the professors came by to check out how things were going with everyone. When he came by my room, he saw how tired I was. He had never paid much attention to me before that day even though he was a frequent visitor on our floor. I knew his name but that was all.
He suggested that I might need some time away from the books; an hour or so of relaxation, so he invited me over to his home. I was honored to be invited by a professor. When I walked into his home, he offered me a drink and by treating me like an adult, he gained my confidence. Now I knew I wasn't supposed to drink, but somehow just being asked seemed like such a great honor. I drank most of it; my head began to swim as my dreams drowned. When I awoke, my clothes and my dreams were both undone. I found out later that this man had abused many others over a good many years. The school, however, protected him and decided to make an example out of me. I was told that my parents would get a letter informing them of all that had occurred that night.
I joined the Marine Corps less than six days later. My parents got a bewildering letter from the school which included nothing about the incident, but informed them that I was not welcome back the next year. My parents eventually investigated and discovered the truth.
I bring this up because last week my pastor read a quote from the book of John. Lazarus, the brother of Martha, was dead. When Jesus asked her where he was buried, Martha protested His implied intent of opening the grave by saying, “Lord, by this time he stinketh…”
Although I had read and heard this Scripture many other times, at that very instant the Spirit of the Lord said to me, “Bob, are you ready for a stinking miracle?” In other words, "Is there some hope or dream that has been buried for days or years? Has death destroyed your hope somehow?"
I think we are comfortable with little miracles, but we don’t believe for the unbelievable to happen. But God wanted to remind me of the thousands of buried dreams which long ago had begun to stink. Big miracles reveal our total need for Him, our failures, our weaknesses, and sometimes our sin.
But who wants a stinking miracle? Who wants to come forward and speak of where they buried their dreams? Who wants to admit their own shame? Who will speak of their own failures and sin? Listen. If you want a stinking miracle, it's time to tell Jesus where the tomb is hidden. Now remember, He already knows so don’t ever be embarrassed. He is easily approached by the humble, easily entreated by the grieving who remembers where their dreams are buried, and easy to speak to in prayer.